My Coaching: Game of Love App
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
It’s 11pm on a Tuesday. You just got home from a date that left you more confused than when you walked in.
He said all the right things. He’s Catholic. He seems like a good man. But something felt... off. And now you’re lying in bed replaying every moment, wondering: Was that a red flag or am I self-sabotaging? Am I being too picky or not picky enough? Should I go on a second date?
You open your phone. You could text your best friend, but she’s asleep. You could call your mom, but she’ll just say “pray about it.” You could scroll through a Catholic dating forum — but anonymous strangers don’t know your story, your wounds, or the pattern you’ve been repeating for three years.
What you actually need is someone who understands Catholic dating, knows your history, and can help you see what you can’t see on your own.
The Question Nobody Knows How to Answer
After years of ministry, Mike and I kept hearing the same thing from singles: I don’t know who to talk to about this.
Not theology in general. Not homilies about marriage. Not another book on discernment. They needed someone to help them apply all of it to their specific situation. Their attachment wounds. Their dating patterns. Their Tuesday night confusion.
The Catechism actually names this need. CCC 1632 says that “the role of pastors and of the Christian community as the ‘family of God’ is indispensable for the transmission of the human and Christian values of marriage and family, and much more so in our era when many young people experience broken homes which no longer sufficiently assure this initiation.”
Indispensable. Not optional. Not “nice to have.” Community guidance in preparing for marriage isn’t a luxury — it’s a necessity. Especially now.
I lived that gap myself.
When I was healing after my divorce, there was really nothing in the Catholic Church for someone like me. No one who could sit with me in the mess and help me understand why I kept making the same choices. No one who could connect the dots between my father wound, my attachment patterns, and the men I was drawn to. I had to piece it together myself — through years of therapy, a Psychology degree from Divine Mercy University, and a lot of grace.
I worked with a woman recently — let’s call her Jessica — who reminded me of exactly that season. She’s 31, smart, deeply faithful, and she’d been dating for six years with nothing to show for it but confusion. She kept choosing men who were emotionally distant, then blaming herself when things fell apart. When she finally took the KNOW Thyself assessment and saw that her anxious attachment style was driving the pattern, she said something I’ll never forget: “Why didn’t anyone tell me this ten years ago?”
That question haunts me. Because the answer is simple: there wasn’t anywhere to go.
That’s why we built My Coaching inside Game of Love. So you don’t have to piece it together alone. So Jessica’s question becomes something we can actually answer.
Four Levels of Coaching — Meet You Where You Are
My Coaching isn’t one-size-fits-all. It’s a graduated system that meets you exactly where you are, with the kind of support you actually need right now.
Virtual Coach — Your 24/7 Catholic Guide
Remember that Tuesday night spiral? The Virtual Coach is there for exactly that.
It’s AI-powered, but not the generic chatbot you’re imagining. Our Virtual Coach draws from over 11,900 chunks of Catholic teaching — the Catechism, Theology of the Body, Sacred Scripture, St. Thomas Aquinas’s Summa, Canon Law, papal encyclicals, and more. When you ask it a question, it doesn’t give you a Google answer. It gives you a response grounded in the same sources a well-formed spiritual director would reference.
Ask it to help you interpret your KNOW Thyself results. Ask it what the Church actually teaches about physical boundaries in dating. Ask it how to bring up NFP with someone you’re dating. Ask it to help you process that confusing date.
It’s available around the clock, every single day. Because your questions don’t only come during business hours.
Who gets it: Everyone. The Virtual Coach is available on Free, Basic, and Premium plans. Free and Basic users get a set number of conversations, and Premium opens up expanded access. No matter your plan, you can start a conversation tonight.
Message a Coach — Real Guidance From a Real Person
Sometimes you need more than AI. You need a human being who has read your assessment results, understands your story, and can offer personalized wisdom you can’t get from an algorithm.
There’s a reason the Church has always valued accompaniment — one person walking alongside another. As St. John Paul II wrote, “marriage and family counseling agencies by their specific work of guidance and prevention, carried out in accordance with an anthropology consistent with the Christian vision of the person, also offer valuable help in rediscovering the meaning of love and life” (Evangelium Vitae §88).
That’s what Message a Coach is. You send a message to a real Catholic dating and relationship coach. They respond within 24-48 hours — not with a generic pep talk, but with specific guidance informed by everything you’ve already shared on the platform. Your KNOW Thyself temperament and attachment style. Your READY scores. Your My Story narrative. Your conversation history.
No intake forms. No starting from scratch. Your coach sees the full picture before they ever type a word back.
Perfect for: “My READY assessment flagged Family of Origin as ‘Needs Work’ — what does that actually mean for me?” Or: “I’ve been on four dates with someone and I’m not sure if my hesitation is wisdom or fear.”
Cost: 3 credits per message.
Group Coach Session — You’re Not the Only One
There is something powerful about realizing you’re not the only one struggling with this.
Group sessions are live, one-hour gatherings led by a Catholic coach on focused topics: Singles Readiness, Navigating First Dates, Pre-Engagement Discernment, and more. You learn from the coach and from each other. We learn about ourselves through interaction, not isolation — through hearing someone else name the struggle we’ve been too afraid to voice ourselves.
That’s what these sessions offer: formation and community. The chance to discover that your struggle isn’t weird — it’s human. It’s shared. And that shared understanding is often where the breakthrough finally happens.
Perfect for: When you want wisdom AND belonging. When you want to learn from other people’s questions, not just your own.
Cost: 25 credits per session.
1:1 Coaching Session — Deep, Personal, Private
This is the deep dive. A private session with a Catholic dating and relationship coach who has complete context on your assessments, your story, and your journey.
For the situations that need more than a message. Unpacking complex family-of-origin wounds. Working through a relationship that might need to end. Processing attachment triggers that keep showing up. Preparing for an engagement conversation with real data from your GIFT results.
CCC 1648 says something I think about often: “It can seem difficult, even impossible, to bind oneself for life to another human being.” The Catechism doesn’t pretend the path to marriage is simple. But it follows that honest acknowledgment with this: those who pursue this path “deserve the gratitude and support of the ecclesial community.”
Support. Not judgment. Not platitudes. Real, informed, personal support from someone who can see what you can’t see about yourself — and help you bring it to God.
Perfect for: Complex situations, trauma-informed guidance, couples discernment, or any season where you need someone to walk with you closely.
Cost: 80 credits per session.
Why This Is Different From Anything Out There
I’ve seen what’s available. Secular relationship coaches who treat dating like a sales funnel. Catholic podcasts that give great theology but can’t help you apply it to your Thursday night date. Well-meaning friends who love you but don’t know how to connect your attachment style to your dating patterns.
My Coaching bridges all of that. Here’s how:
Your coach already knows you. When you opt in to share your assessment data, your coach sees your My Story narrative, your MATRIX scores, your KNOW Thyself profile — temperament, love languages, attachment style — your READY scores with flagged items, and your full conversation history. They arrive informed, not blank.
Everything is grounded in the truth about the human person. The Virtual Coach pulls from nearly 12,000 chunks of authoritative Catholic sources — the Catechism, Theology of the Body, Scripture, the Summa, Canon Law, and papal encyclicals. Human coaches work within the same framework: the arc of how God made you, where you’ve been wounded, and how grace transforms the gap between the two.
It scales with your needs. Start with the Virtual Coach at 2am. Message a real coach when you need personal guidance. Join a group session for community and shared learning. Book a 1:1 when you need to go deep. You don’t have to choose one — you use what you need, when you need it.
The Investment
Let’s talk about this honestly, because your formation is worth talking about honestly.
The Virtual Coach is available to everyone — Free, Basic, and Premium. If you’re on a Free or Basic plan, you get a set number of conversations to start. Premium opens up expanded access.
Human coaching — Message a Coach, Group Sessions, and 1:1 Sessions — requires a Premium subscription. Premium also unlocks the ability to purchase and use coaching credits.
Here’s how I think about it: you’ll spend money on dates that go nowhere. You’ll spend money on apps that reduce you to a profile photo. You’ll spend money on self-help books that don’t know your story, your wounds, or your attachment patterns.
Investing in a coach who already has your full assessment profile, understands Catholic teaching on the human person, and can help you stop repeating the same cycles? That’s not an expense. That’s preparation for the most important vocation of your life.
Familiaris Consortio calls this “the commitment of all the members of the local ecclesial community to helping the couple to discover and live their new vocation and mission.” My Coaching is that commitment made practical — personalized, ongoing, and grounded in the truth about who you are and who God made you to be.
Practical Katie’s Insights
Here’s what I know after years of coaching: the patterns you can’t break alone are often the ones you can’t see alone. Jessica couldn’t see her own pattern until her assessment data put it in front of her. And even then, she needed someone to help her understand what it meant and what to do about it.
You might be the same way. Not because you’re broken. Because you’re human.
Your next step: Open Game of Love and go to My Coaching. Start a conversation with the Virtual Coach tonight — it’s available on every plan, right now. Ask it the question that’s been sitting in your chest. The one you haven’t said out loud yet. See what it feels like to get an answer grounded in 2,000 years of wisdom instead of a Reddit thread.
And when you’re ready for more — a real coach who knows your story, a group session where you’re not alone in this, a private deep dive into the patterns keeping you stuck — upgrade to Premium and start building the support system your vocation deserves.
You weren’t designed to figure this out alone. And now, you don’t have to.
In Him,
Katie
Katie Palitto is a relationship & dating coach @Finding Adam Finding Eve ministry and co-creator of the Game of Love app.