Game of Love: My Coaching for Coaches
Dating Tools for Coaches
What If You Could Coach With the Full Picture?
Let me ask you something. How many times have you sat across from a client, or opened a message from one, and realized you were working with half the story?
She tells you about the guy she’s been dating for three months. She thinks he might be “the one.” But something feels off, and she can’t name it. You ask the right questions. You listen well. You offer what you can. But in the back of your mind, you’re thinking: I wish I knew more. I wish I could see what she can’t see about herself yet.
You don’t know her attachment style. You don’t know that her family-of-origin wounds are driving a pattern she’s repeated in every relationship since college. And her readiness scores would flag two areas she hasn’t even thought to examine, but you’ll never see them.
You’re doing good work. But you’re coaching in the dark.
I know that frustration. I’ve lived it, both as a coach and as someone who needed coaching and couldn’t find it.
When Mike and I started Finding Adam Finding Eve, the conversations we had with singles were heartbreaking in their consistency. I don’t know who to talk to about this. Not theology in general. Their specific situation. Their Tuesday night confusion after a date that felt wrong but they couldn’t say why.
But here’s what surprised us: we started hearing the same thing from coaches.
Catholic counselors, spiritual directors, campus ministers, marriage prep facilitators. Good people doing important work. And they were telling us they felt limited by what they didn’t know about the people sitting in front of them. A life coach I worked with put it this way: “I spend the first twenty minutes of every session catching up on context I should already have. By the time I get to the real work, we’re almost out of time.”
That conversation haunted me. Because the Catechism calls this work “indispensable.” Not optional. Not nice-to-have. CCC 1632 says the role of the Christian community is indispensable for transmitting the values of marriage and family, “much more so in our era when many young people experience broken homes which no longer sufficiently assure this initiation.”
Indispensable. That’s the word. And the people doing this indispensable work were telling us they needed better tools.
So we built them.
What My Coaching Gives You
My Coaching is the coaching system inside Game of Love. If you’ve read about it from the user’s side, this is what it looks like from yours.
Your Clients Arrive Informed
When a client opts in to share their assessment data with you, here’s what you see before you ever type a word back.
You get their My Story narrative: background, family, faith journey, relationship history. You can see how much they’ve opened up. You get their MATRIX scores, a quick formation baseline across eight areas. They can assess themselves and someone they’re dating. The gap between those two assessments? That’s often where the real conversation starts.
Then it goes deeper. Their KNOW Thyself profile gives you temperament, love languages (giving and receiving, which most people don’t realize differ), attachment style with severity level, and their Virtue MATRIX percentage. This is the richest self-knowledge data your client has ever handed you.
Their READY scores show readiness across eight dimensions, with items flagged at Critical, Caution, and To-Work-On levels. You know exactly where to focus before the session begins.
And if they’re in a relationship, the GIFT data shows alignment percentages per category, red flags, and formation opportunities. Plus a downloadable workbook you can walk through together in couples sessions.
No intake forms. No starting from scratch. Your client has already done the work of self-examination. You get to start where it matters.
The Virtual Coach handles routine questions 24/7, drawing from over 11,900 chunks of Catholic teaching: the Catechism, Theology of the Body, Sacred Scripture, the Summa, Canon Law, papal encyclicals, Vatican II documents. When your client asks a question at 11pm on a Tuesday, they get a response rooted in the same sources you’d reference.
So when they come to you, the conversation has already started. The Virtual Coach has done the initial work. You get to go deeper.
And you? You work within the same vision of the person. How God created them. Where they’ve been wounded. How grace is transforming the gap between the two. Your clients won’t hear that language, but they’ll feel it in how everything connects.
Here’s what I love about this model: it respects your time.
Message a Coach is asynchronous. A client sends you a focused message (750 characters max). You respond within 24 to 48 hours, up to 5,000 characters. No scheduling conflicts. No squeezing someone in between back-to-back sessions.
You respond when you’re ready, with full context already in front of you.
Group sessions let you serve multiple clients in a single hour around shared topics: Singles Readiness, Navigating First Dates, Pre-Engagement Discernment. Community and formation in one room.
And 1:1 sessions are there for the deep work. Complex family-of-origin wounds. Relationships that might need to end. Attachment patterns that keep showing up. Couples walking through GIFT results together with you as guide.
You scale the depth to match the need. The platform handles the rest.
If you coach Catholic singles who are actively dating, and I’m guessing that’s why you’re reading this, let me tell you what this looks like in practice.
A 28-year-old woman takes the KNOW Thyself assessment. She discovers she has an anxious-preoccupied attachment style at a moderate severity level. Her giving love language is Acts of Service, but her receiving love language is Words of Affirmation. She’s been dating a man for two months and can’t understand why she feels unseen even though he’s constantly doing things for her.
Without this platform, she might talk to a friend. She might Google “anxious attachment.” She might ask her parish priest, who is wonderful but not trained in attachment theory.
With My Coaching, she messages you. And when her message arrives, you already see the full picture. You see the attachment pattern, the love language mismatch, and her READY scores showing that Family of Origin is flagged as Caution. You don’t spend twenty minutes catching up. You spend your time helping her connect the dots, with the full weight of what the Church teaches about the human person behind you.
That’s the difference. That’s what we built this for.
Familiaris Consortio says something I think about often. John Paul II called the work of lay specialists in family guidance “a commitment that well deserves the title of mission, so noble are the aims that it pursues.” He went further: “The future of the world and of the Church passes through the family.”
The future of the world and of the Church. That’s not small.
You became a coach, or a counselor, or a spiritual director, or a campus minister, because you believe in accompaniment. You believe that people don’t have to figure this out alone. Neither do you.
We built My Coaching to put better tools in the hands of the people already doing this indispensable work. Assessment data that would take you months to gather on your own. A Catholic knowledge base deeper than any single library. A format that respects your time. And a place where your expertise reaches further, not where it gets replaced.
Scripture says it simply: “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety” (Proverbs 11:14).
Your clients are looking for safety. You can be the counselor who provides it. With the full picture, finally, in front of you.
Your next step: Visit gameof.love/partner to learn more about joining My Coaching as a coach. We’d love to have you.
In Him,
Katie
Katie Palitto is a relationship & dating coach @Finding Adam Finding Eve ministry and co-creator of the Game of Love app.